Sunday Morning
Our first contributor!!!
reAAction is a friend of Ms B, who greatly shares with us the enthusiasm and excitement we have for this blog. Read more about her at our Meet the Friends section where you’ll also find information about her personal blog. Do follow her sexy, sultry, humorous and interesting oh-my-God-she-did-not-just-say-that tweets on Twitter! You’re gonna love her!!!
Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this post are strictly those of the blog post author, reAAction.
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My friends would have been surprised to see me making French toast, bright and early on a Sunday morning. They would be even more surprised to know that I was actually cooking for someone other than myself.
Let’s get a couple of things clear here: I was cooking for my little cousin and French toast is as good as it gets with me. The kitchen is not my domain by any means, but I do wish the opposite were true. In any case, why would my friends be so shocked? They know me. They know that the kitchen is not where I belong. In fact, a good friend of mine told me many years ago, “I just don’t see you as being domestic.” Poof! Just like that, what I had known for some time materialized into those words.
So there I was, cooking, entertaining a child, and cleaning up after him. I sat down with my coffee in the kitchen as he wandered off to play video games and thought, “Wow. This life is so not for ME.” By “this life” I mean that of a wife and mother. The domesticated woman bears so much responsibility. It’s exhausting just thinking about what roles a woman must fulfill once she’s the “lady of the house.” I think about cleaning and cooking and pursuing a career and maintaining a healthy relationship with my husband (if I choose to ever get married…but that’s a different topic) and keeping my individuality and spending time with my friends and family and maybe even starting my own family and and AND it goes on and on. Are you kidding me?
Some women are rooted by their desires. They were meant to be anchored by a man (or woman) and a family and all this domesticated bliss is housed and fenced off in that ideal 3.5 bedroom house in the suburbs. Some women just want to roam free. I am of the latter….for now. I want lazy Sunday mornings for me.
Filed Under: Pseudo Domestication, Random Musings
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Inadvertently Domesticated

Comments (8)
I guess, for most of us 21st century women, domestication is kind of like an I’ll-cross-the-bridge-when-I-get-there kind of thing. It’s not planned. It’s nothing we really truly desire our lives to be. In this generation, we’re wired to become career-driven and go-getters until marriage and children (not necessarily in the exact order) come along.
I’ve met many young women who simply just want to get married and have kids. They have careers because they need one, but their true desires lie in having a family. The beauty of it all is that we all have a choice.
I do admire people like reAAction who really knows what she wants & has the courage to act upon it. I once knew someone like that, she envisioned herself as a career woman, goal driven indepent person. Until she felt that she can do that regardless if she’s married & has a family of her own. At 24 she felt it was right to start a of family of her own even though she always think she’d get married in her late 20′s. That woman now is learning to be domesticated in her own little world managing in taking care of her 2 month old daughter, her husband and the business she put up. That someone is me.
Awwww chiniebeenie, I so adore you! I’m sure you’re proud of what you’ve accomplished!
I had never planned for domestication as well. I used to put world domination at the top of my list hihihi until I just noticed things happen, people happen. After that, you fall into the trap of domesticated bliss. But domesticated bliss does not mean I can’t go and conquer the world anymore (cuz you know, I still want to
). It merely means you’ll need to balance life, which really is humbling. Now I can attend to my world domination activities after I do the dishes (or after I bat my eyelashes and ask my husband to do the dishes
).
Awww. For that let’s try to read “How to rule the world from your couch!” hihi.
[...] from my comment on the post inadvertentlydomesticated.com » Sunday Morning of all the things I have ever imagined happening to me & my life, being blissfully domesticated [...]
oohh…i’m gonna read that!!! thanks!
Hi! This post couldn’t be written any better! Reading this post reminds me of my previous room mate! He always kept talking about this. I will forward this page to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read. Thank you for sharing!
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