Single, Double, Triple

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I never really thought I’d build & have my own family at a young age (well, at least young for the many), I was 23 and Mr. Go was 28 then.

I just graduated from college when we decided to get married.  I know many of you might think we acted on impulse, or many of you would ask me the question most people have asked me “sawa ka na bang maging single?” It made me wonder, is that what other people think whenever someone’s getting hitched? Probably. Maybe most of them are tired of being single or some think they need to get married, maybe some of them are even threatened and afraid to be an old maid. Maybe, but I wasn’t any of them. I was actually enjoying my spontaneous single life.

I (if I may say) was pretty much having the time of my life. I was in a relationship with Mr. Go but enjoying the independence that comes with it. I was enjoying my work, enjoying socializing and meeting a lot of interesting people in the world of advertising, media and communications. Marriage then wasn’t a vague topic to us but it also wasn’t something I see myself planning in the coming years. I was living my life for the moment.

But marriage did happen and it happened the least I expect it. I wasn’t prepared but that doesn’t mean I didn’t want to get married. The idea that I’ll spend the rest of my life with the person I consider my counterpart was overwhelming. I was blissful but at the same time I was conscious, I felt that I needed to be a Stepford Wife or something like that. People still assume I was single unless they see my wedding band maybe because I act like one but then again it made me think, it’s not the way I act, it’s just how they see me based from how they know me. My friends never imagined I’d be a Mrs. in my early 20’s, they feel I wasn’t “wife material” yet ‘coz I was, like I said pretty much enjoying my singlehood. But every time they ask me if I was ever ready, I always give the same answer: “It’s not about being ready coz you’ll never be truly ready, it’s about knowing when it’s time”. Some movie & dinner dates were dedicated for house-fixing & furniture shopping instead. From single, I was now a double. All about me was out of the picture, I know the old single careless me was nowhere to be found.  “I” was replaced with “we”; I now have my soul mate to consider & to share everything I have.

Six months after another title was given to me, from Mrs. I was preparing to become a mommy. Spontaneity sure knows how to work its way in our relationship. Although we’ve been trying for me to conceive, I was then enjoying settling to my newly titled name and wasn’t really expecting I’d get pregnant after 6 months of trying. I was a newly-wedded preggo. After nine months, our little one came. What happiness & joy Little J had given me & Mr. Go was priceless. Again I was worried, on how to act like a mom and if I am truly ready to be one. But motherly instincts just kicked in, ready to catch and throw away my worries. Now, our social calendar involves monthly visits to her doctor and party hours devoted to Little J’s 3 am feeding. From double we are now triple. It’s not about the newlyweds anymore, it’s about the double being parents and the triple being a family.

If I were to look back who I was 2 years ago I would say I was independent from my parents, providing for myself, deciding for myself and planning for myself. Looking back One and A half years ago I was deciding with Mr. Go, I was planning with Mr. Go and I was living a dream with Mr. Go. Now I am looking, we are now parents providing for our little one, deciding for our little one and living a dream with our little one. Yes, everything was spontaneous. From single, to double to triple.